But, although it had a few parts that already are known, it had many others that I didn’t pay attention to earlier, like the way in which he says that we must not surrender to our definitions of ourselves and strive to define ourselves in as wide of a definition as we can, so that we would not condition ourselves to trying to live up to those definitions.

For example if we believe that we are good in relationships, than we will do everything to maintain that image, including avoiding improvement, that conclusion was key for me, and after that chapter I even found myself lying on the floor looking at the ceiling, scared of the uncertainty that there really is, to subject all the values that I have to question and understand that all of them are a result of my definitions is scary as hell, because changing some of those most basic assumptions will cause an earthquake beneath your feet, when you change some of your core beliefs it is like being reborn.